If you have ever been asked to give the eulogy or funeral speech, you already know that it can be an overwhelming task, regardless of your relationship to the deceased. Not everyone is good at or comfortable with speaking in public. Add to that the monumental importance of the task, as well as your own personal grief, and it can be easy to feel overcome.
However, if you have just been asked to give a eulogy for the first time, bear in mind that there are a few things that are critical to include in a proper eulogy that will help you prepare the difficult speech, and make it easier on you during the delivery.
Components of a Good Funeral Speech
The decedent’s name should be included in the very first sentence of the eulogy. Of course, no one will forget why they are there but, by beginning the eulogy with the person’s name, you set a very personal tone and it makes your speech even more intimate.
Mention the decedent’s immediate family members by name, especially his or her spouse and children. If you don’t know their names you should ask, because they are the ones who are feeling the deepest loss, and it is important to acknowledge them.
Also, when preparing the eulogy, you should ask family members of the deceased to share their personal memories with you. You cannot use them all, of course, but include one or two in the eulogy as an acknowledgement of what the deceased meant in the lives of his family members. The family will appreciate the fact that you went out of your way to include them in the eulogy, and that you made it personal
Include a few bits of personal information that are not inside jokes or stories. In other words, if the deceased had a favorite saying, or was well known for turning up the volume when ‘his song’ came on, include that in the eulogy. Mention hobbies, military service, volunteer work, important life events, beloved pets, and personal achievements, too. Keep in mind that this is not an obituary, but it is important to acknowledge the things that made the decedent uniquely himself.
It’s also a great way to connect mourners in their grief, because what you talk about will be personal information about the decedent that is known by virtually everyone in attendance
When you agree to give a eulogy, the hardest step will be the first one: determining what to write. Make sure that the eulogy contains a beginning, middle, and end, and that you include the most important components. When you follow a structure, it makes this seemingly impossible task suddenly achievable.
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