How to Write a Eulogy for Your Grandmother
Any time we lose someone we love, the loss can feel unbearable. This is particularly true if the person we lose is our grandmother. She is the nurturing matriarch of the family, and often holds an endearing place in our hearts.
If you have been asked to give the eulogy at your grandmother’s funeral, and you feel that you are up to it, you should strongly consider doing it. It’s a decision you will never regret, and it’s a wonderful opportunity to openly share how important she was to you. It may not be easy, but it will be worth it. Here are few things to keep in mind when preparing the eulogy.
Gather as much information you can about your grandmother’s life, beginning with the names of those she loved. This list should include her parents, spouse(s), children, stepchildren, siblings, grandchildren, and best friends. Add as many of the names as you feel are necessary, and include this in the beginning portion of the eulogy.
Something else that should be added to the beginning of the eulogy is the information related to her personal story, such as when and where she was born and raised, where she attended school, her military service, when she was married, and highlights of her professional career.
Also include major achievements, such as awards. Make sure you add information about any volunteer work she did, the church she attended, and things that made her unique, such as hobbies and interests, favorite books and authors, movies, and places she’s travelled.
Collect stories and memories from friends and family that speak to your grandmother’s personality and values. Include your own as well, keying in on what you learned from her and what she meant to you. This will all be included in the middle portion of the eulogy.
You won’t have room to include every bit of information you gather, but the more information you have about your grandmother, the more colorful of a picture you can paint.
Write and Practice
Once you’ve gathered all of the information and stories, determine what to include and write it down in sequence. It’s important to do this because, no matter how well you think you may know what you’re going to say, emotions often get the better of us, and you will at least have your speech written so you can fall back on it. An outline will be fine if you’re more comfortable with that method.
For the same reason you write it down, make sure to practice the eulogy until you are comfortable enough with the recitation. You want it to flow as smoothly as possible, as nerves could stumble you up if you aren’t familiar with the speech.
Delivering the Eulogy
Make sure that, before you deliver the eulogy, you have a backup person on the side who has a copy of the speech. This is in case you become emotional and are unable to finish. Even if you can’t imagine that happening, it’s better to have someone there anyway.
Have water and tissue available, and before you begin speaking from the outline or speech notes, look out and acknowledge everyone in attendance. There’s no need to mention them by name necessarily since that will happen in a few moments. When you acknowledge those in attendance, you are letting them know that you care about them being there, and that you appreciate their presence.
The attendees want you to succeed, so if you have to pause for a long breath, or take a drink of water to calm your nerves, they will understand. Above all, remember that they are there in support of you as well.
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