Whether it’s anticipated or not, anytime a loved one dies there is a feeling of genuine loss. When the one who has passed is your grandfather, it can be doubly difficult, especially if you were close to him. If you are given the opportunity to deliver the eulogy for grandpa, and you feel that you are up to it, you should do it. You will never regret the decision to share with others just how important he was in your life.
Simply because you agree to do it, though, doesn’t mean it will be easy. So, here are some guidelines that will help you write a eulogy that will truly celebrate your grandfather’s life.
Writing a Eulogy for Grandpa
Even if you knew your grandfather very well, there is certain to be some information that you don’t know. Make a list of the important people in his life, including the names of his parents, siblings, spouse(s), children, stepchildren, grandchildren, and dear friends. Include as many names as you feel necessary, but gather them all for reference, so you can add as needed.
Next, write down where he was born and raised, when he was married, where he attended college, his military service, and other life milestones. Again, you may not include everything, but keep it all as reference.
Collect memories and stories from family and friends, particularly those stories that speak to your grandfather’s personality and values. You won’t use them all, but certainly weave one or two of them into the eulogy. They will be considered a valuable and intimate part of the eulogy.
Includes your sentiments and stories as well. What are your earliest memories of your grandfather? What life lessons did he teach you? What were your favorite things to do together? Of course, don’t make it about you, but your grandfather meant a lot to you, and it’s important for you to share why.
Don’t forget to include a few of your grandfather’s favorites, such as sports and sport teams, books, movies, and hobbies, or anything else that made him unique. This is a remembrance and reflection of his life, after all.
Write and Practice It
After you have all of the information, filter through it to determine what pieces of it are the most important to include. Write it down in a simple beginning, middle and end format.
The beginning will include his name, the names of those important to him, and a little about his life’s path. It’s not an obituary, but it is important to include some basics that will help present an overall picture or your grandfather.
The middle is where you add in the stories from friends and family, and the personal anecdotes and life lessons you would like to share. Don’t be afraid to talk a little about what he meant to you.
The conclusion of the eulogy will be a quick summary of what you’ve said up to that point, and end with a positive inclusive statement, such as “I know we will all miss my grandfather. After all, he really was one of the good guys. I love you, grandpa.”
Delivering the Eulogy
Before beginning the eulogy, make sure that you have someone nearby who has a copy of your remarks in case you become too emotional and are unable to finish. Keep water nearby, and remember that it’s okay to take pauses, and it is important to speak slowly.
Begin the eulogy by acknowledging everyone who came, but not necessarily by name. It is just important to let everyone know that you are thankful for their presence. This lets them know that you care and that it matters to you that they came. Above all, keep in mind as you are up there that those in attendance are supportive of you, and they wish you well.
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